About Executive Coaching

Executive coaching by Sonja Becker does not change people, but their environment.

The guideline that actor Jack Nicholson masterfully pursues in Martin Scorsese’s film “Departed” also works (positively) as the life manual for true self-actualization: a person’s exodus from ego.

I don’t want to be a product of my environment. I want my environment to be a product of me.

Mobster Frank Costello in the movie “Departed”

Executive Coaching

The genes and the genius

Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos und Richard Branson: three billionaires start a bizarre race against each other. Who will fly to space first and who will fly further? “Like little boys in a sandbox,” one of the leading German papers (SZ) sneers as a result of this attempt – and notes that this approach only serves to “make even more money out of a lot of money”. If it’s up to these old men’s ideas, touristic cities with hotels are to pop up on the moon, with a view of the earth … even on such a broad horizon, the businessmen’s perspective remains rather terrestrial. It seems that even successful people tend to stick to their small-minded doctrines – well they do, don’t they?!

Even when stereotypical “success stories” come up on a smaller scale, they follow the same sandbox pattern. Many top-notch businesspeople started their career or managed to get a job somewhere, and in time eased into a daily grind. At the beginning, work ensures an income, later a good livelihood, promising prosperity and wealth. But even in the best case, the grind is still a rat race.

That’s why the question of the meaning of life comes up during the infamous midlife crisis. Alternatively, it results in the epiphany that you’ve just been blindly looking out for yourself. The reason why: because “career” is basically synonymous with “ego-driven”. At the beginning, it displays a kind of sportsmanship, which later turns into self-actualization – and even later into the question of what really makes sense in life.

From a certain stage (according to anthroposophist Rudolf Steiner’s seven-year-life cycles at the age of 42), a career enters a phase of being settled for all intents and purposes. This is the time when you ask yourself if your achievements (including your home, car or an impressive return) actually also have an impact on your environment. In other words, if you have made your environment your product, or the other way around …

Brilliance needs an environment

An environment with a positive connotation unleashes tremendous power. Mozart grew up in an environment where his father discovered his talent. Elton John’s grandmother recognized that her grandson played piano like no other and sent him to the music school. Legions of artists, musicians and scientists have been drawn to the epicenters of their profession, New York City, Silicon Valley, Hollywood, you name it: in these places, their talents are recognized and valued. Top leaders know this. These are the hotbeds of brilliance.

From the ingenious IT company to the drama school, talents find their mentors until they become mentors themselves. At least, this is the ideal concept of executive coaching. It is based on a model that was discovered by science at the end of the 20th century: the momentum of cell structures which replaces the old idea of a subject designing its environment by hierarchies, rivalry thinking or even war – the transition is gentle but has a huge impact.

Newtonian physics states:
Everything is matter.

Quantum physics says:
The universe consists of energy.

Side note

The developmental biologist and stem cell researcher Bruce Lipton is now very well known for his theory that you can easily reprogram yourself, or your own cell structure. In this case, an energetic process begins with yourself being the stone that creates waves. This wave movement is something completely different from proactive energy, where we constantly generate power on our own. But let’s start at the beginning ...

Ever since researchers Watson and Crick recognized the secret of the DNA structure as a life copying mechanism in the 1950s, these questions have been even less absurd. It was clearly established that our body cells are not atomic, i.e. indivisible, ultimate biological elements, but that they also have growing and changing structures. And that’s not all: just like heredity, cell structures are based on patterns, partly genetically inherited, and probably partly based on evolutionary biology.

“We are victims of our inheritance.”
Bruce Lipton

Bruce Lipton says that we are victims of our inheritance. Not only in physical life, in our cell structures, but also beliefs and emotions are a matter of control. Genes supervise us, not the other way around. They control our moods, what we think, how we act and feel. It is even the cells themselves that control us, not the nucleus; remove it, and the cells live on! As proven, the nucleus is not the brain of the cell. Likewise, genes do not control the cell’s activities and thus do not control biology. Lipton refers to “epigenetics” as a new science based on the fact that cells were once genetically identical, but change due to their environment. Genes, however, operate according to a blueprint, a master plan of our physical and mental existence. But, if you could control the fate of exponentially multiplying cells, you could also change the environment – and here we are with the rock creating waves.

Ever since Einstein’s Theory of Relativity and Wilson/Crick’s discovery of DNA structures, commonly known ideas of the Modern Age and Enlightenment – such as the individual as the almighty subject controlling its environment – are no longer convincing. Scientist Bruce Lipton’s conception of the effect of cells on our life describes that we ourselves do not influence our environment. It’s our cells that are definitely in contact with the outside world via the primary organ – our skin – and the effects are ongoing.

According to Lipton, the truth lies in “epigenetic control”, instead of former scientific assumptions such as control by means of domination. In truth, the cell structure’s perception of the environment leads the way. The sad truth: for the most part, we are made up of negative experiences which are stored in our cell structure. But there is some good news: we can release them. Biologically, by influencing the skin as an intermediary from the inside and the outside. Figuratively, by perceiving a reality without any genetically adopted notions. Unfortunately, these are mostly shaped by old, mainly male-dominant patterns such as war, conflict and competition.

Imagine flipping the switch. What Lipton describes as “true” perception is a high-energy movement of waves. You could also refer to this as the notorious “momentum”, and it does not exclusively work on one individual. Lipton refers to “constructive interference”: a kind of energy which flows between people and becomes entangled; from love as the highest form of energy to any conceivable form of human interaction. Thus, it’s not about reason and intellect, but instead about senses such as touch, temperature and pressure. And this is the point of departure for executive coaching.

In Sonja Becker’s executive coaching, a special awareness of our environment comes to light. This kind of perception is the true switch that triggers change. And if perception shifts to a purely positive mindset, there is also a shift in the way you see yourself and other people; in your personal life, in the company, in politics, in all social areas. We are no longer talking about “influence” or “control”, we are now talking about positive energy. And this transcends your whole body!

How a pebble creates a tornado

What does that have to do with the determination of your environment? Or “leadership”? Even when we can be sure that we have our surroundings under control, we are only motivated by reason or experience. But that energy is merely produced on a back burner. Based on this you can generate an idea, but it’s just grounded in faith. Very often, manipulative instruments have been triggered in order to make this kind of faith real. In contrast, executive coaching only consists of shaping our environment like you would a garden – by cultivating instead of battling. If people stopped mobilizing manipulative power based on ego forces and cared for their energy flow instead, something completely different would emerge: not a motor, but a tornado.

A whirlwind is pure energy. You cannot see it. What you see are merely elements triggered and swirled by the storm. That’s how executive coaching works: as a form of transmission of energy replacing the power struggle between the subject and object, creating high-energy potentials instead of the eternal fight between ego and environment. As Lipton says: Energy is the original genius. In executive coaching, you find your way back to this kind of spirit.

True leadership actually means “guidance”, the art of being guided by your own core intelligence instead of old patterns. Leadership does not need force. It triggers something that is much more powerful. Executive coaching creates momentum, like a pebble creates waves – the better the idea, the greater the reach.

According to ancient Christian patterns of belief, we have to suffer in order to be saved. Many people waste huge amounts of power and negative energy in order to move something. But they only move in the same pattern, in a spiral: like Sisyphus hauling the same rock up a hill just to see it roll down again. Money may increase but it’s not the indicator. Your contentment should be the indicator.

One quick verification question in closing: If you envision yourself in the afterlife, what do you think the situation will be? Will your descendants be fighting each other for your material inheritance, or will they be cultivating your legacy? The legacy is the momentum. In other words, the feeling of flying into space – even without a room with a view of the earth. This view can be had almost anywhere on earth.


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